HEALTHY SEXUALITY
Counseling For Individuals Learning To Love Themselves and UnBecoming All Else
| Sex Therapy For Individuals |
| Therapy For Overcoming Sexual Trauma & Religious Guilt |
| Exploration of Gender & Sexual Identity |
| Therapy for Breakups, Separation & Divorce |
Questioning? Confused?
Working through repressed shame around feelings of sexual desire and attraction?
Cultivating a healthy relationship with your sexuality and sexual identity is a lifelong process. Formulating a deep understanding and acceptance of how you interact with sex can be an uncomfortable process to embark on as you work through identity conflict, challenging your ideals or rejecting expectations from the world around you.
Sex is a part of life, and your sexuality is a valuable part of who you are.
No matter where you are in exploring your relationship with sex, attraction, and confidence, we can work together to ensure you are getting the most out of your journey.
Sex isn’t always a good time
There are a multitude of experiences that can turn this scintillating three-letter word into an overwhelming obscenity that feels worlds away from the celebratory space we expect sex to be.
But just because sexuality has become a part of something painful does not mean it has to stay that way.
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Therapy For Sexual Trauma
Whether you have experienced assault, harassment, or other forms of sexual violation, sexual trauma is something that can feel incredibly isolating.
The trauma of being violated in such intimate situations is heavy to work through and may have many triggers.
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Therapy For Endings: Breakups, Separation & Divorce
At the end of a relationship, beginning a new sexual experience may feel like an impossible feat. Overcoming the difficulty of endings along with the intimidation of starting new can open up old wounds or expose insecurities long buried.
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Therapy For Religious Shame & Sex Guilt
Be it through religion, upbringing, or cultural expectations, shame can be a large part of many people’s sexual experiences. Particularly around the things you crave in fantasy or reality, as well as sexual orientations beyond those that are expressly accepted in your family of origin, shame can be a powerful inhibitor of sexual freedom.
Sexuality is…
Diverse and personal to your experience and desires
A part of who you are
Something that can change and develop as you grow through life
Yours to dictate, explore and explain as you choose
Sexuality is not…
Something you owe anyone else
There is no part of your sexuality or the many things that encompass it that are owed to those around you.
Whether you have been made to feel beholden to others through physical or emotional trauma, feel the weight of religious or traditional expectations, or you’re just looking to work through your relationship with sex and identity on behalf of questions you ask yourself, you can’t get it wrong.
Through our counseling relationship, we can develop the tools and boundaries that will allow you to work through these facets of your journey and arrive in a space of confident liberation in who you are.
Components of Sexuality
Your sexuality is not just who you are attracted to, but a collective of experiences, preferences, and ideas that help to define the way you interact with sex as a person in the world. Sexuality is an umbrella that contains sexual identity as well as sexual orientation.
Sexual Orientation
Who you are attracted to and how you express your attraction to other people define your sexual orientation. Experiencing sexual desire for one or more genders may look various ways, including varying degrees of interest for romance, physical intimacy, and sexual relationships across a spectrum of identities.
There are many shades and expressions of sexual orientation beyond being just straight or queer. There are shades and ranges in between and across every corner of the spectrum of sexual interest. How you describe your orientation is not limited to any single definition, but is yours to explore and see what fits.
Sexual Identity
Your sexual identity has little to do with the way you experience sex with other people. Instead, your sexual identity is your concept of how you engage with and relate to your sexual preferences, interests, and exploration.
Your identity is yours, formulated by the way you perceive yourself concerning sex.
For some, their sexual identity falls into the same space as their gender identity. Exploring these aspects of your identity in tandem can be a valuable tool in understanding yourself and how you feel about and engage with sex.
Celebrating sex where you are
Whether you are questioning your sexual identity, sexual orientation, or a combination of things, getting comfortable with who you are and what you need is a vital aspect of liberating yourself from expectation and pressure. You are a unique being, worthy of validation in any identity you assume or align with. If you are coming out, recovering from, or questioning the things that make up your sexuality, support is available for you.
Accepting, understanding, and eventually celebrating the identities that feel most authentic to you are often not linear processes, but they are attainable.
What we can explore together
In our time together, we will focus on exploring first your sexual identity.
We will work together on asking hard questions and exploring experiences that may have contributed to the discomfort or confusion you now feel when you consider the way you interact with sex, attraction, and relationships.
By working through the moments in life that have left you with unresolved emotions, painful trauma, or even perplexing pleasure, we will build a toolbox of knowledge and compassion from which you can draw as you continue to move through the expression of sexuality in your life.
Sexuality is an integral part of the human experience. Even so, it can be a complex experience within yourself as you process the ways you’ve engaged with sex in your lifetime.
In the safety of a space where you will never be judged for the things you feel or wonder, we can explore the healing and integration of your past with the future you hope to build.
Gain Confidence
Creating compassion and understanding for your sexual feelings will make confidence a more accessible part of experiencing desire and attraction. Confidence is a valuable part of being able to verbalize what you want and, just as importantly, what you don’t.
Your confidence is a worthwhile reward for the hard work of exploring your relationship with sex.
Advocate for your sexuality
Once you’ve spent time with the things you want and know what’s important to you in your sexual expression, we will cultivate comfort in advocating for your sexuality. No matter what’s important to you, you deserve to be able to live the life you want.
Learning to comfortably and confidently advocate for your sexuality is an important part of growth.