Sex Therapy For Increasing Intimacy

Feeling Connected To Your Partner Through More Than Just Sex

| Sex Therapy For Individuals and Couples |

| Therapy To Increase Intimacy |

| Therapy for Incorporating Kink Into Your Relationship |

 

Developing a healthy relationship with sex is tricky and multifaceted magic. As our experience of sex is often rooted in many complex emotions, our relationships with sex and intimacy are wildly personal. 

Intimacy is an umbrella under which sex falls, yet it stands alone as its own entity as well. 

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No matter where your sexual and intimate beginnings took place, we are here to guide you through the processing of your journey now that it can become an empowering tool by which you can celebrate and meet your needs.

 

When you’re dealing with questions, the effects of trauma, or hesitation about your sexual experiences or interests, you need support.

 
 
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A Quick Guide to Intimacy

 

Physical intimacy

The way you share your body with your partner(s) is the first thing many people think of about intimacy, and that’s certainly a part of it. Physical intimacy is a valuable part of connection and sharing yourself with another.

 

Some roadblocks to physical intimacy may be:

  • For those with a penis

    • Trauma triggers

    • Erectile Dysfunction

    • Performance Anxiety

    • Premature ejaculation

  • For those with a vagina

    • Trauma triggers

    • Pain during intercourse (e.g., vaginismus)

    • Trouble reaching orgasm

  • As a couple

    • Mismatched Libido

    • Initiation Anxiety

    • Life changes

    • Sexual interest differences

    • Loss of attraction

 While these things may feel overwhelming to experience (or even just to read), there is much we can do to support your experience as individuals and together. 

If you are struggling with physical intimacy and want to feel closer, let’s work through your frustration using open conversation and exploring solutions.

 

Emotional Intimacy

Vulnerability is nearly a swear word to some people, and it’s no wonder why. We are often not taught ways to express our most tender and intimate thoughts in ways that feel safe. As a result, many of us stop offering those thoughts to others- even in our most trusted relationships. 

Bridging the gap between what you can express and what you experience is a valuable way to connect with your partner and create intimacy in those vulnerable spaces. Whether you are working through past trauma, lacking feelings of safety, or rebuilding trust, there are options to move through your barriers to emotional intimacy in a supported way.

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Other types of intimacy

Physical and emotional intimacy are the buzzwords in these conversations, but maybe you’ve moved through those and still feel something is lacking. If that’s the case, it’s time to explore some other spaces where intimacy offers connection to see how those may help your relationship to feel vibrant once more.

We’re here for you if you’re looking to explore: 

  • Spiritual intimacy: While prayer or religion may be what comes to mind here, it’s not required. A spiritually intimate experience can happen in nature, in silence, or in awe. 

  • Intellectual intimacy: Creating a safe space to share viewpoints and discuss them as you develop them from a thoughtful and respected point of view within your relationship. 

  • Experiential intimacy: The experiences you share hold a lot of power, as well as the memories you’ve made. Feeling intimate in those connections is powerful.

Difficulty With Intimacy

  • With Yourself

    Self-pleasure has a reputation in many cultures as being shameful. Feeling as if your natural curiosity about what your body can do will lead to a painful personal relationship with personal intimacy.

    When masturbation feels like a forbidden experience, engaging with your body sexually or intimately may be uncomfortable. Likewise, being honest about your needs and emotions is often a struggle. Working through that discomfort to have conversations with yourself about getting intimate solo is an empowering way to reconnect with self-pleasure.

  • In Relationships

    Letting others reach into your vulnerability can be a struggle, even in relationships in which you feel celebrated and adored. If either of those things is lacking, it’s even more important to reach for guidance in opening up communication to foster security in a healthy and engaging manner that invites openness into the relationship.

    We can work to overcome barriers and conquer obstacles to ensure you can feel confident in your moments together.

Let’s Talk Sex 

Feeling fulfilled in your sexual relationship is a different measure of value than simply creating a balanced sense of physical intimacy. There are many aspects to sex that can be overlooked or are simply never taught. 

Let’s spend time shaping the full spectrum of your sexual experience so we can build it into something positively magical for you.

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Advocating for your pleasure

Simply put, knowing what makes you feel good is the key to the kingdom. Identifying the things that feel good and conveying them clearly and without shame is powerful.

In counseling, we can work through your experiences and ideas to develop the language that helps you to advocate for what you need to feel pleasure at every opportunity.

Wants, needs, and fulfillment

What do you want in bed? In touch? From your partner? These are all powerful questions that can help you to seek fulfillment in your intimate and sexual experiences. 

Identifying the different levels of the way you want to experience sex- want, need, curious, and avoid- can feel overwhelming. Fulfillment comes beyond the finding, and exploring is your very own journey. With a nonjudgemental guide, you are already a step ahead of getting lost in such a wonderland of possibility.